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PostSubject: To Befriend or Not to Befriend? THAT is the Question!   Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:59 am

<table bgcolor="FFFFFF" border="0" cellpadding="5" cellspacing="0" width="100%"><tr><td>To Befriend or Not to Befriend? THAT is the Question!



The Prophet peace be upon him said: “A person is on the path of his
intimate friend, so let each of you look carefully at whom he takes as
an intimate friend.”


What is the real meaning of a friend? I’m sure if we ask ourselves this
question, not many of us will be able to answer it the correct way. Most
people view friends as people who keep your secrets, someone to talk to
on the phone, someone you trust, someone whom you can have fun and hang
out with. But this kind of friendship is not even close to the kind of
friendship mentioned in the Quran.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says: “And the believing men and the
believing women are protecting friends to one another. THEY COMMAND WHAT
IS RIGHT AND FORBID WHAT IS WRONG AND THEY ESTABLISH THE SALAH AND
PRODUCE THE ZAKAH AND THEY OBEY ALLAH AND HIS MESSENGER.” (9:71)


Now what more of a friend do you want than that? Subhan'Allah. The kind
of friendship we had in mind is nothing like the friendship Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala wants. “...They command what is right and forbid
what is wrong..” Who from our friends do we find doing this? Any? If not
few… The kind of friendship I see people having is actually quite the
opposite. I see people laugh at the wrong, and ignore what is right.


Rarely if not never, have I seen a friend tell another friend.
“Sister/Brother fear Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for what you are doing is
haram.” Just how much do our friends affect us? Here is a hadith to
find out…


The Prophet peace be upon him said: “The example of a good friend and a
bad friend is like the seller of Musk (perfume) and the blacksmith. If
you go to the seller of perfume, you will either leave (happy) buying
perfume, or you will leave will the smell of the musk. And If you stand
by the blacksmith you will burn your clothes, or you will leave with the
*smell of* the stink of his work.”


So when you are with the good friend you will learn from him, or some of
his goodness will rub off on you. *leaving you relaxed* While when you
are with the bad friend, you will be like him, or you will leave with
some of his bad habits. Sadly, we are missing out on the true
friendship. But that’s not even the worst part; the worse thing is that
most Muslims would rather have the company of non Muslims instead of
their brother/sister in Islam. Nevertheless Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala’s
advice that we should prefer people of like mind to ourselves over non
believers is crystal clear:


“Let not the believers take the unbelievers as Auliya (supporters,
friends, helpers) instead of the believers, and whoever does that will
never be helped by Allah in any way, except if you indeed fear a danger
from them.” (3:28)


May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide us all.


So as for the believing men and woman who command each other with good,
and forbid the bad, they will have a great reward in the hereafter, and
they will be thanking each other in Jannah, insha'Allah. But as for the
men and woman, whose friendship is only based on worldly matters, those
so-called friends who laugh and encourage each other when they do wrong,
and take faith as a joke, for them is a painful torment.


Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala warns the Muslims against such friendships…
"On the day when the wrongdoer will bite upon his hands (from regret),
he will say, ‘O would that I had taken a path with the Messenger, O Woe
to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as an intimate friend; he
certainly lead me astray from the remembrance after it had come to me
and Shaytan (Satan) is to man ever a deserter in the hour of need"
(25:27-30)


Subhan Allah, they will be the best of friends in this world, but in the
hereafter they will be the worst of enemies to each other. In the
hellfire, one will call to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and say "Oh Allah,
this person (the friend from the world) took me by my hand to the haram,
Ya Allah… Ya Allah… Double his punishment! And curse him with a mighty
curse! Subhan Allah!! How painful the hellfire, and yet that person is
still wishing it to be worse for his friend (from the world). But then
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will double BOTH their punishments…


Subhan Allah, see these ‘friends’ they weren’t really friends in the
world, and as you can see they won’t be friends in the hereafter. Now it
is your turn to decide, you can either command your friends with the
good, and forbid the evil, which may not be very easy, but your friend
will thank you for it in Jannah, or would you rather be from those who
bite their hands from regret….Be careful when choosing your friends…


May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us from those who hear the advice and put it into action!
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